Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

In our fast-paced, tech-driven world, it’s easy to dismiss a child’s lack of response as mere distraction. However, this behavior is often a subtle form of disrespect that can have lasting consequences on their relationships and social skills. When your child ignores you while glued to a screen, it’s not just a momentary lapse in attention; it’s a lesson in power dynamics and respect that they are internalizing. The Scene: Calling for Attention Imagine this scenario: You call your child’s name once, then twice. You receive no reply. Instead, you find yourself speaking to the back of their head as they remain fixated on their device. This moment can feel frustrating, but it is essential to recognize that it is more than just a fleeting annoyance. It reflects a deeper issue that can shape their understanding of communication and empathy. The Lesson in Power Dynamics When ignoring becomes habitual, your child learns a powerful lesson: your voice can be background noise, easily dismissed u...

نبی محمد (صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم) نے اپنی بیوی عائشہ (رضی اللہ عنہا) کو وہ دعا سکھائی جو بہت سے علماء کے نزدیک ** سب سے جامع دعا ** ہے۔ یہ دعا ہر قسم کی بھلائی کو شامل کرتی ہے، جسے چار گروپوں میں تقسیم کیا جا سکتا ہے: جو اللہ ہمارے لیے بہتر جانتا ہے، جو نبی (صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم) نے طلب کیا، ہر چیز جو جنت کی طرف لے جاتی ہے، اور کوئی بھی بھلائی جو ہمارے لیے مقدر ہے۔ اَللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ مِنَ الْخَيْرِ كُلِّهِ عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ مِنْهُ وَمَا لَمْ أَعْلَمْ   وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الشَّرِّ كُلِّهِ عَاجِلِهِ وَآَجِلِهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ مِنْهُ وَمَا لَمْ أَعْلَمْ   اَللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِ مَا سَأَلَكَ عَبْدُكَ وَنَبِيُّكَ   وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا عَاذَ بِهِ عَبْدُكَ وَنَبِيُّكَ   اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلْكَ الْجَنَّةَ وَمَا قَرَبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ   وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ النَّارِ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ   وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَجْعَلَ كُلَّ قَضَاءٍ قَض...

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A woman who grows up in a family where her father lacks a voice—where he is unseen, unheard, and lacks authority—carries deep emotional wounds. When a father is emotionally or energetically absent, it conveys to his daughter that masculine energy is weak, unsafe, or unreliable. If he fails to protect and lead with strength and love, she misses out on the safety and structure that a strong masculine presence can offer. This absence creates a silent chaos within her, leading her to unconsciously believe that she must protect herself, provide for herself, and lead herself, as the man in her life never did. As she matures, she often finds herself drawn to men who embody the same energetic absence as her father—men who may be passive, indecisive, emotionally unavailable, or silently dependent. These men lack leadership, protection, and the ability to hold space for her. Unknowingly, she steps into the role of protector, decision-maker, and provider, adopting masculine traits to survive. How...

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A family friend called me yesterday, expressing mixed emotions about her son moving to California. She asked for my honest opinion, and here it is the general opinion of majority of the pakistani people, my friend. The story of the hard-earned lives of self-made individuals in foreign countries begins the day they receive a visa, and families celebrate their child's achievement. However, in reality, this often leads to a loss of genuine love and bonding. Families cannot see the hardships faced by their children living far away, out of sight and reach. These individuals start their lives from ground zero, without support and affection during tough times. Parents cannot perceive their child's suffering, and siblings cannot feel the miserable foundation of their brother's or sister's life. While children in Pakistan live comfortably under their parents' roof, one child struggles day and night to earn enough money to pay rent, bills, insurance in a foreign country. That...