Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

  One Missed Call… And a Lifetime of Truth The Mirror Our Children Hold Up Yesterday, someone from our extended family called after decades of silence. At the time, my daughter was using my phone, so I remained unaware. Today, when I noticed the missed call and asked her about it, she replied calmly: “Mom, I didn’t tell you because I didn’t understand why they would call after so many years. Do they need something? Or is it some very special occasion? People like this don’t call out of love, they call when they need something.” I tried to defend them. I said it might be something important, that perhaps they wanted to say something meaningful, and that she should have answered the call. But her response stopped me in my tracks. “Mom,” she said gently, “I’m sorry if this hurts you, but as long as I can remember, such people reach out only on their own terms, when they need you, when it suits them. And once their need is fulfilled, they disappear. Sometimes they even point out your f...

 اپنی زندگی کو کسی کے لیے عیاں نہ کریں حسد ہمیشہ وہاں سے آتا ہے جہاں لوگ آپ کے گھر آ کر آپ کے حالات اور دولت کو جانتے ہیں۔ کوئی آپ کو نقصان نہیں پہنچا سکتا جب تک وہ آپ کے گھر کی تفصیلات نہ جانتا ہو۔ کوئی بھی آپ کے منصوبوں کو ناکام نہیں بنا سکتا جب تک آپ خود اسے اپنا راز نہ بتائیں۔ آپ کا راز آپ کا قیدی ہے، لیکن جیسے ہی آپ اسے کسی کے سامنے ظاہر کرتے ہیں، آپ خود اس کے قیدی بن جاتے ہیں۔ بعض اوقات حسد کرنے والے لوگ مشورے کے پردے میں آپ کو نقصان پہنچانے کی کوشش کرتے ہیں۔ کوئی آپ کے خاندان کے لیے سازش نہیں کر سکتا جب تک وہ آپ کے گھر میں کثرت سے آتا جاتا نہ ہو۔ کوئی بھی آپ کی کمزوریوں کو نہیں جان سکتا جب تک وہ آپ کے قریب نہ رہا ہو۔ ہر عزیز کے لیے بھی ایک حد مقرر کریں۔ یہ توقع نہ کریں کہ کوئی آپ کے راز کو محفوظ رکھے گا، جبکہ آپ خود اسے چھپا نہ سکے۔ یہاں میرا مطلب یہ نہیں کہ آپ لوگوں سے رابطہ ختم کر دیں۔ نہیں، ہرگز نہیں۔ بلکہ یہ کہ آپ حدود کا تعین کریں اور ان حدود کو عبور نہ ہونے دیں۔ اپنی زندگی کو کسی کے لیے مکمل طور پر ظاہر نہ کریں، کیونکہ لوگ کب بدل جائیں، یہ آپ کو معلوم نہیں ہوتا۔ جو لوگ...

  People often find themselves disrespected and treated poorly by others, and understanding the underlying reasons can help in addressing the issue. Here are some key reasons why this happens: You Allow Disrespect : One of the primary reasons people treat you poorly is that you permit it. If you don't set boundaries, others may feel free to disrespect you without fear of consequences. Constant Availability : Being overly available can lead to being taken for granted. When you give your unreserved attention to others, they may come to expect it, leading to a lack of respect for your time and feelings. Lack of Personal Growth : If you are not actively working on improving yourself or building value in your life, others may perceive you as lacking ambition or purpose. This can lead to them treating you as irrelevant or unimportant. Seeking Approval : When you live to impress others and prioritize their opinions over your own, you lose your sense of self. This can result in others feel...

While sharing my life experiences with my daughter, I’ve come to realize something important about trust. Once I see a person's true nature, it becomes difficult for me to trust them completely. I may stay in touch, but my belief in them will be diminished, and I will remain vigilant for their next move. There is a saying: you can change nurtured behavior, but not nature, because nature is innate—it's in a person’s blood. A loser will remain a loser, even when given great opportunities in life. A selfish person will always be self-oriented, focused on "I," "me," and "myself." Someone with bad intentions toward others will never find peace, as karma has a way of catching up with them. We must also be aware that some individuals, like snakes, may stay close to us, silently observing our lives and waiting for the right moment to strike. These can be friends or family—often, it’s those we trust and respect the most who can cause us harm.  These harmful...

  The 48 Laws of Power  is a book written by Robert Greene that offers a series of strategies for obtaining and maintaining power in various situations. Below is a summary of the 48 Laws: 1. Never Outshine the Master : Make your superiors feel superior. Avoid showcasing your talents excessively, as this may trigger their insecurities. 2. Never Trust Friends Too Much; Use Your Enemies : Friends can betray you more easily. If you manage to win over an enemy, they may become more loyal. 3. Conceal Your Intentions : Keep people off balance so they cannot anticipate your actions. 4. Always Say Less Than Necessary : Silence breeds power; speaking too much reveals your plans. 5. Protect Your Reputation at All Costs : Reputation is the cornerstone of power. 6. Court Attention at All Costs : Be visible to remain relevant. 7. Make Others Work for You, but Always Take the Credit : Leverage the efforts of others to your advantage. 8. Make Others Come to You : Instead of chasing others, ma...

Today, my daughter overheard someone on the phone using harsh language and a ruthless tone. She couldn’t believe that I was laughing loudly and enjoying the whole situation. She asked, "Mama, was he drunk while talking?" I laughed for a long time, imagining that guy with a double shot of vodka in one hand and texting with the other. My daughter said, "Mama, you didn’t mind it at all." I replied, "My dear, on a serious note, I actually enjoy people like that. When someone is disrespectful, it shows nothing but immaturity and arrogance. Try not to take it personally; it’s not really about you, but rather a reflection of their own character. Only those who are unhappy with themselves are mean to others. When someone is trying to hide something and gets caught, they often react like shallow cowards to mask their insecurities.  Every unsuccessful person shares the same story: they showcase fake power by shouting, disrespecting others, and displaying arrogance. That’...

You don't just lose someone once. You lose them over and over, sometimes many times a day. When the loss, momentarily forgotten, creeps up and attacks you from behind, fresh waves of grief wash over you as the realization hits home—they are gone, again. You don't just lose someone once. You lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn. As you awaken, so does your memory, along with the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart—they are gone, again. Losing someone is a journey, not a one-off event. There is no end to the loss; there is only a learned skill of staying afloat when it washes over you. Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea. They have a journey ahead of them, and every day brings a shock to their system as they realize— they are gone, again. You don't just lose someone once. You lose them every day, for a lifetime. It takes a village.

 In the realm of adolescence, where emotions run wild, There dances a girl, just fifteen, an enigmatic child. She navigates a world of change, where hormones ebb and flow, And in her heart's tempest, her true self seeks to show. Her behavior, oftentimes, a puzzle to unfold, A mix of contradictions, a story yet untold. She yearns for independence, to spread her wings and soar, But still clings to childhood, uncertain of what's in store. Her moods can be a tempest, swirling fierce and strong, One moment filled with laughter, the next, a mournful song. She battles inner demons that nobody else can see, And struggles to make sense of her own identity. She questions societal norms, rebels against the grain, Challenging authority, seeking freedom from the chain. Her defiance can be daunting, a whirlwind of unrest, But beneath that fiery surface, a tender heart beats in her chest. She craves validation, acceptance, a place to call her own, Yet fears rejection, judgment, feeling painfu...

1) Statistically the biggest indicator of success at 32 years is having self-control when a kid is 12 years old. Success is determined by a lot of factors namely no drug , no criminal violation, having a stable job, good citizenship etc 2) Make your kids speak their native language at home and with you. Reduce generation gap by involving their grandparents in their lives. If possible try to convince their grand-parents to move in with you. 3) Make them feel proud of their heritage. Kids nowadays are ashamed to talk their language or wear their cultural attire. In a quest to fit in and assimilate they want to no longer associate with their roots. 4) Have a friend circle with folks whose kids also are able to communicate in the same mother tongue. This way the kids can talk the language among themselves. 5) Do not give them smart phones until you know they are responsible. Buy them a dumb phone if required. This phone will fulfill the needs. 6) He went onto compare America...