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Reasons Why People Disrespect You?

  People often find themselves disrespected and treated poorly by others, and understanding the underlying reasons can help in addressing the issue. Here are some key reasons why this happens: You Allow Disrespect : One of the primary reasons people treat you poorly is that you permit it. If you don't set boundaries, others may feel free to disrespect you without fear of consequences. Constant Availability : Being overly available can lead to being taken for granted. When you give your unreserved attention to others, they may come to expect it, leading to a lack of respect for your time and feelings. Lack of Personal Growth : If you are not actively working on improving yourself or building value in your life, others may perceive you as lacking ambition or purpose. This can lead to them treating you as irrelevant or unimportant. Seeking Approval : When you live to impress others and prioritize their opinions over your own, you lose your sense of self. This can result in others feel...

A FATHER

 جوانی میں انسان باپ کو شک کی نگاہ سے دیکھتا رہتا ہے ، جیسے باپ کو ہمارے مسائل ، تکلیفوں یا ضرورتوں کا احساس ہی نہیں ، یہ نئے دور کے تقاضوں کو نہیں سمجھتا . کبھی کبھی ہم اپنے باپ کا موازنہ بھی کرنا شروع کر دیتے ہیں ، " اتنی محنت ہمارے باپ نے کی ہوتی ، بچت کی ہوتی ،کچھ بنایا ہوتا تو آج ہم بھی ...فلاں کی طرح عالیشان گھر ، گاڑی میں گھوم رہے ہوتے " " کہاں ہو ؟ کب آؤ گے ؟ زیادہ دیر نہ کرنا " جیسے سوالات انتہائی فضول اور فالتو سے لگتے ہیں . " سویٹر تو پہنا ہے کچھ اور بھی پہن لو سردی بہت ہے " انسان سوچتا ہے کہ اولڈ فیشن کی وجہ سے والد کو باہر کی دنیا کا اندازہ نہیں . اکثر اولادیں اپنے باپ کو ایک ہی معیار پر پرکھتی ہیں، گھر ، گاڑی، پلاٹ ، بینک بیلنس ، کاروبار اور اپنی ناکامیوں کو باپ کے کھاتے میں ڈال کر خود سرخرو ہو جاتے ہیں " ہمارے پاس بھی کچھ ہوتا تو اچھےاسکول میں پڑھتے، کاروبار کرتے " اس میں شک نہیں ، اولاد کے لئے آئیڈیل بھی انکا باپ ہی ہوتا ہے لیکن کچھ باتیں جوانی میں سمجھ نہیں آتیں یا ہم سمجھنے کی کوشش نہیں کرتے ،اسلئے کہ ہمارے سامنے وقت کی ضرورت ...

The 48 Laws of Power

  The 48 Laws of Power  is a book written by Robert Greene that offers a series of strategies for obtaining and maintaining power in various situations. Below is a summary of the 48 Laws: 1. Never Outshine the Master : Make your superiors feel superior. Avoid showcasing your talents excessively, as this may trigger their insecurities. 2. Never Trust Friends Too Much; Use Your Enemies : Friends can betray you more easily. If you manage to win over an enemy, they may become more loyal. 3. Conceal Your Intentions : Keep people off balance so they cannot anticipate your actions. 4. Always Say Less Than Necessary : Silence breeds power; speaking too much reveals your plans. 5. Protect Your Reputation at All Costs : Reputation is the cornerstone of power. 6. Court Attention at All Costs : Be visible to remain relevant. 7. Make Others Work for You, but Always Take the Credit : Leverage the efforts of others to your advantage. 8. Make Others Come to You : Instead of chasing others, ma...

Peom about 15th Year

 In the realm of adolescence, where emotions run wild, There dances a girl, just fifteen, an enigmatic child. She navigates a world of change, where hormones ebb and flow, And in her heart's tempest, her true self seeks to show. Her behavior, oftentimes, a puzzle to unfold, A mix of contradictions, a story yet untold. She yearns for independence, to spread her wings and soar, But still clings to childhood, uncertain of what's in store. Her moods can be a tempest, swirling fierce and strong, One moment filled with laughter, the next, a mournful song. She battles inner demons that nobody else can see, And struggles to make sense of her own identity. She questions societal norms, rebels against the grain, Challenging authority, seeking freedom from the chain. Her defiance can be daunting, a whirlwind of unrest, But beneath that fiery surface, a tender heart beats in her chest. She craves validation, acceptance, a place to call her own, Yet fears rejection, judgment, feeling painfu...

Collapse of parenting

1) Statistically the biggest indicator of success at 32 years is having self-control when a kid is 12 years old. Success is determined by a lot of factors namely no drug , no criminal violation, having a stable job, good citizenship etc 2) Make your kids speak their native language at home and with you. Reduce generation gap by involving their grandparents in their lives. If possible try to convince their grand-parents to move in with you. 3) Make them feel proud of their heritage. Kids nowadays are ashamed to talk their language or wear their cultural attire. In a quest to fit in and assimilate they want to no longer associate with their roots. 4) Have a friend circle with folks whose kids also are able to communicate in the same mother tongue. This way the kids can talk the language among themselves. 5) Do not give them smart phones until you know they are responsible. Buy them a dumb phone if required. This phone will fulfill the needs. 6) He went onto compare America...