Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

Have you ever noticed that when someone cannot confront their own faults, they make you the problem instead? It's easier for them to portray you as the villain than to face their mistakes or take responsibility for their failures & actions. By shifting the blame onto you, they create a convenient distraction from the truths they've been avoiding. Recently, a lifelong loser attempted to blame me for his dysfunctional relationship with his sister. Well, my dear, instead of blaming others, take a moment to reflect on your past and present. Your long history of affairs, your friendships, and your troubled relationship with your parents are prime examples of your personality. I don't remember finding myself in any of your dramas. But Yes, Meanwhile, you were wrapped up in your arrogance, intimidating others with your anger. I was focused on building my life and career, working hard to achieve what I have today. So, grow up and mature; try to accept your personal flaws instea...

  People often find themselves disrespected and treated poorly by others, and understanding the underlying reasons can help in addressing the issue. Here are some key reasons why this happens: You Allow Disrespect : One of the primary reasons people treat you poorly is that you permit it. If you don't set boundaries, others may feel free to disrespect you without fear of consequences. Constant Availability : Being overly available can lead to being taken for granted. When you give your unreserved attention to others, they may come to expect it, leading to a lack of respect for your time and feelings. Lack of Personal Growth : If you are not actively working on improving yourself or building value in your life, others may perceive you as lacking ambition or purpose. This can lead to them treating you as irrelevant or unimportant. Seeking Approval : When you live to impress others and prioritize their opinions over your own, you lose your sense of self. This can result in others feel...

While sharing my life experiences with my daughter, I’ve come to realize something important about trust. Once I see a person's true nature, it becomes difficult for me to trust them completely. I may stay in touch, but my belief in them will be diminished, and I will remain vigilant for their next move. There is a saying: you can change nurtured behavior, but not nature, because nature is innate—it's in a person’s blood. A loser will remain a loser, even when given great opportunities in life. A selfish person will always be self-oriented, focused on "I," "me," and "myself." Someone with bad intentions toward others will never find peace, as karma has a way of catching up with them. We must also be aware that some individuals, like snakes, may stay close to us, silently observing our lives and waiting for the right moment to strike. These can be friends or family—often, it’s those we trust and respect the most who can cause us harm.  These harmful...

  The 48 Laws of Power  is a book written by Robert Greene that offers a series of strategies for obtaining and maintaining power in various situations. Below is a summary of the 48 Laws: 1. Never Outshine the Master : Make your superiors feel superior. Avoid showcasing your talents excessively, as this may trigger their insecurities. 2. Never Trust Friends Too Much; Use Your Enemies : Friends can betray you more easily. If you manage to win over an enemy, they may become more loyal. 3. Conceal Your Intentions : Keep people off balance so they cannot anticipate your actions. 4. Always Say Less Than Necessary : Silence breeds power; speaking too much reveals your plans. 5. Protect Your Reputation at All Costs : Reputation is the cornerstone of power. 6. Court Attention at All Costs : Be visible to remain relevant. 7. Make Others Work for You, but Always Take the Credit : Leverage the efforts of others to your advantage. 8. Make Others Come to You : Instead of chasing others, ma...

Do you know who is the most threatening woman to our society?   The one who truly knows herself and value her worth. A woman with self-esteem can be recognized by her personal boundaries. She is a woman who firmly says "no" and distances herself from any place or relationship that does not acknowledge her worth or essence without hesitation. A woman who values herself never begs for respect! She naturally establishes this in her relationships because she respects herself. In her life, no man acts disrespectfully, no friend speaks rudely, and no relative behaves inappropriately that she would tolerate. She removes all of them from her life. Her life is characterized by a sense of royalty, not based on wealth, but on her dignity, respect, and standards, which align with her true value. A woman with self-esteem never uses her emotions, needs, or desire for support as an excuse to remain in toxic or deceitful relationships. She easily distances herself from anything unworthy of h...

Today, my daughter overheard someone on the phone using harsh language and a ruthless tone. She couldn’t believe that I was laughing loudly and enjoying the whole situation. She asked, "Mama, was he drunk while talking?" I laughed for a long time, imagining that guy with a double shot of vodka in one hand and texting with the other. My daughter said, "Mama, you didn’t mind it at all." I replied, "My dear, on a serious note, I actually enjoy people like that. When someone is disrespectful, it shows nothing but immaturity and arrogance. Try not to take it personally; it’s not really about you, but rather a reflection of their own character. Only those who are unhappy with themselves are mean to others. When someone is trying to hide something and gets caught, they often react like shallow cowards to mask their insecurities.  Every unsuccessful person shares the same story: they showcase fake power by shouting, disrespecting others, and displaying arrogance. That’...

 Bert Hellinger said the "black sheep" of the family (they should be called "lions of the family") are actually born seekers of liberation paths for the family tree "Those who from a young age constantly sought to revolutionize beliefs, leaving the paths marked by family traditions, those criticized, judged and even rejected, those, are usually called to free the tree of repetitive stories that frustrate entire generations." "Those that do not adapt, those who shout rebellion, play a basic role within each family system; they repair, detoxify and create a new and flourishing branch in the family tree. Thanks to these members, our trees renew their roots. His rebellion is fertile land, his madness is water that nourishes, his stubbornness is new air, his passion is fire that rekindles the hearts of the ancestors." "Let no one make you doubt, take care of your "rarity" like the most precious flower in your tree. "You are the dre...

 The Sorrows of Ancestral Homes Ancestral homes are uniquely divided into courtyards, halls, verandas, airy rooms, and kitchens, yet connected to one another. In these homes, worn red brick floors and lime-washed damp walls are overgrown with rampant vines. Tall grass grows in the center, while a mango tree and a lemon tree stand sentinel, embodying a perpetual mourning as they silently gaze in one direction. Inside, the atmosphere is also uniform. Brass and copper utensils rest on the shelves, waiting for hands that dust and polish the furniture, while bowls and teapots remain empty. Clothes and linens stored in closets wait to be taken out, and walking sticks, wheelchairs, and canes search for hands to lean on. Framed family pictures—black-and-white and sepia photographs—along with old suitcases and sacred books, are placed on shelves, as well as ancient literature from Baba Adam's time; everything sits in its own designated place. The inhabitants of these ancestral homes are now...

You don't just lose someone once. You lose them over and over, sometimes many times a day. When the loss, momentarily forgotten, creeps up and attacks you from behind, fresh waves of grief wash over you as the realization hits home—they are gone, again. You don't just lose someone once. You lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn. As you awaken, so does your memory, along with the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart—they are gone, again. Losing someone is a journey, not a one-off event. There is no end to the loss; there is only a learned skill of staying afloat when it washes over you. Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea. They have a journey ahead of them, and every day brings a shock to their system as they realize— they are gone, again. You don't just lose someone once. You lose them every day, for a lifetime. It takes a village.

 Oh, Pakistan, the land of woes, Where misery thrives and jealousy flows. Depression, competition, and hatred so grand, A toxic brew in this desolate land. Everyone claims to be a victim of envy, While secretly plotting their own treachery. Accepting others' happiness? Oh, what a joke, In this land of bitterness, it's all smoke. The poor struggle for their daily bread, While the rich chase after more they can spread. An unending battle, a never-ending strife, Where material possessions define one's life. Dishonesty, mistreatment, hypocrisy galore, Some will go to any length, that's for sure. Forcing their opinions with no regard, Leaving others wounded, their spirits scarred. In families, a toxic game is played, Siblings manipulate, hearts betrayed. Seeking approval, a sense of pride, In the eyes of parents, they strive to reside. Guilt-tripping children, a common theme, Comparisons made, crushing self-esteem. A tight-knit joint family, a suffocating prison, No room for...