Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

A few days back, someone visited me, and after that person left, I realized the most painful thing was dealing with a case of suspected dual personality disorder. Literally, I had to take a break from my routine life and relax, as it was one of the most challenging times to witness someone in so much emotional turmoil. The person seemed unaware that their life was being heavily influenced by past trauma, as they were still living in the past and had let it ruin their present and jeopardize their future. They constantly compared themselves to others, including their parents, siblings, life partner, children, and friends. Each discussion would start in a normal way but would devolve into a recitation of their struggles, their perceived best qualities, their character, and their suffering. It was distressing to imagine the person's family going through the worst of this situation every day due to the person's evident narcissistic personality disorder. The way they were ruining the...

Do you genuinely love your wife? I know you may instinctively answer "yes," but that is not the ultimate question. The real question is: does your wife truly feel loved? Take a moment to reflect on this and set aside your immediate response. When a woman genuinely feels loved, it becomes evident through various indicators. The signs manifest in her words and actions. She blushes at the mere mention of her partner. It's rare for her to engage in a conversation without mentioning him. She experiences a rush of emotions, even goosebumps, when she sees or holds him. Her love for him surpasses any other affection she may have. She eagerly seeks his company whenever she needs to talk and feels completely secure in his presence. When a woman genuinely feels loved, she willingly and wholeheartedly supports her husband. She treats him with respect and admiration, without feeling like a servant. She carries herself with the grace of a queen, yet without any trace of arrogance. She ...

 As I continue to grow older, I have come to realize that the length of time someone has known me is not as significant as how they make me feel. It is about finding those who truly see me, hear me, understand me, appreciate me, support me, and love me. In the past, I have wasted months and even years of my life giving myself to individuals who were nothing more than empty shells disguising themselves as human beings. I poured my heart and soul into them, naively hoping that by doing so, they would become whole. However, all they did was eagerly take from me, leaving me drained with dark circles under my eyes, while they fed off the love that flowed from my veins. I have reached a point where I refuse to be a host to soulless individuals any longer. I am now selective in who I choose to forgive and for what reasons. I am not a cold-hearted person who is intolerant of remorse. However, I have come to understand that there are two types of people: those who genuinely feel sorry for t...

 Oh, gather 'round, dear listeners, and lend me your ear, For I have a tale that's sure to bring cheer. It's a tale of a mother-in-law, so grand, A shining star from the magical land of Pakistan. She's a queen in her own mind, you see, With a crown made of ego, as shiny as can be. Her every word, a symphony of self-praise, With a touch of condescension, just to amaze. She'll regale you with stories of her youth, How she was the fairest, the smartest, the truth. Her beauty, unmatched by any other, Her wisdom, greater than any mother. Her cooking, oh, it's simply divine, She'll remind you, as you taste her food, how lucky you are to dine. Her rotis are perfect, each one a work of art, Just don't you dare forget to compliment her culinary part. She'll compare you to others, oh, what a joy, Highlighting your flaws, just to annoy. She'll tell you how her own daughter is superior, Leaving you feeling rather inferior. But fear not, my friend, for there...

 In a room, unbeknownst to her, Conversations swirled, words a blur. She walked in, a silent observer, Listening to friends, their tongues astir. A smile graced her lips, a knowing gleam, As she heard the tales, a deceitful scheme. But she shook her head, let it all go, For her spirit refused to stoop so low. Then came a friend, a venomous tongue, Spewing toxic words, a friendship undone. Yet, she discovered the truth, hidden in the fray, But she chose silence, and walked away. Family, too, turned their backs on her, For standing tall, for daring to stir. She stopped crossing oceans for their sake, When they wouldn't help her cross a bridge, she'd take. Curiosity sparked, I asked her why, She could walk away with a tearless eye. Her response held wisdom, a lesson to impart, A guide for healing a wounded heart. "At each crossroad, I must decide, Who's worthy to walk by my side. Betrayal reveals their truest face, And helps me discern with grace. I won't be angry or ...

It is easy to say "let it go" when you are not the one being dragged through the mud, openly disrespected, and side-eyed. It is even easier to say, "If that were me, I would tell them off," when it does not involve your emotions and life. However, when you feel like no one understands the depth of your issues or the truth amidst a sea of slander, it becomes different. I seriously wonder how many highly intuitive, intelligent, and completely sane women and men have been labeled as crazy simply because they came close to uncovering someone else's deceit. When you feel like your back is against the wall and you are ready to unleash and push back, don't. Do not stoop to a lower level or give an irrelevant person the impression that their words or actions hold any significance in your life. Do not allow lies about you to create falsehoods within yourself. Be still and know that it may take days, months, or even years, but we all eventually face the consequences o...

I certainly see, although it appears to be one-dimensional. I believe humanity possesses more depth than merely operating on a superficial plane. Many individuals go through life without pausing to consider what motivates them. However, an increasing number of people are reflecting on their core issues and values. At our core, most of us deeply believe in principles, character, humility, and so on. Developing self-awareness is essential to rise above our arrogance and animalistic tendencies. We are shaped by what we value. Our values drive our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. Moreover, it is the values of our society that exert the greatest influence on us. We need a system of values that we uphold in order to thrive and survive. Unfortunately, our current society tends to prioritize vice over virtue, rules over principles, image over character, ego over humility, blame over trust, ambition over courage, intelligence over wisdom, disengagement over conscience, excessivenes...

"She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. God is within her; she will not fall. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. When people see you as a strong woman, they may assume that you don't need anything or anyone, that you can handle everything and overcome any challenges. They might think that you don't require a listening ear, care, or pampering. When people see you as a strong woman, they often seek your help in carrying their burdens. They talk to you, assuming that you don't need someone to listen to you. A strong woman is rarely asked if she is tired, suffering, falling, anxious, or afraid. What matters is that she is always there, like a lighthouse in the fog or a rock in the middle of the sea. A strong woman is not forgiven for any weaknesses. If she loses control, she is percei...

 In every family, conflicts and disagreements can arise, and unfortunately, some individuals may exhibit selfish tendencies that can strain relationships. Such is the case with the sister-in-law and mother-in-law in this scenario. These individuals seem to prioritize their own interests and desires above the well-being of their brother and his wife's marriage. Their actions and behavior reflect a deliberate attempt to undermine and destroy the bond between the couple. The sister-in-law, driven by her self-centeredness, may engage in manipulative tactics to assert control and dominance within the family dynamic. She might try to poison her brother's mind against his wife, spreading rumors or planting seeds of doubt to create discord. Her actions may stem from feelings of jealousy or a desire for power and influence over her brother, leading her to take destructive measures that harm his relationship. Similarly, the mother-in-law, driven by her own agenda, may intervene excessive...

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be pa...