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To whom it may concern......

It is easy to say "let it go" when you are not the one being dragged through the mud, openly disrespected, and side-eyed. It is even easier to say, "If that were me, I would tell them off," when it does not involve your emotions and life. However, when you feel like no one understands the depth of your issues or the truth amidst a sea of slander, it becomes different. I seriously wonder how many highly intuitive, intelligent, and completely sane women and men have been labeled as crazy simply because they came close to uncovering someone else's deceit. When you feel like your back is against the wall and you are ready to unleash and push back, don't. Do not stoop to a lower level or give an irrelevant person the impression that their words or actions hold any significance in your life. Do not allow lies about you to create falsehoods within yourself. Be still and know that it may take days, months, or even years, but we all eventually face the consequences o...

Humanity

I certainly see, although it appears to be one-dimensional. I believe humanity possesses more depth than merely operating on a superficial plane. Many individuals go through life without pausing to consider what motivates them. However, an increasing number of people are reflecting on their core issues and values. At our core, most of us deeply believe in principles, character, humility, and so on. Developing self-awareness is essential to rise above our arrogance and animalistic tendencies. We are shaped by what we value. Our values drive our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. Moreover, it is the values of our society that exert the greatest influence on us. We need a system of values that we uphold in order to thrive and survive. Unfortunately, our current society tends to prioritize vice over virtue, rules over principles, image over character, ego over humility, blame over trust, ambition over courage, intelligence over wisdom, disengagement over conscience, excessivenes...

A Strong Woman

"She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. God is within her; she will not fall. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. When people see you as a strong woman, they may assume that you don't need anything or anyone, that you can handle everything and overcome any challenges. They might think that you don't require a listening ear, care, or pampering. When people see you as a strong woman, they often seek your help in carrying their burdens. They talk to you, assuming that you don't need someone to listen to you. A strong woman is rarely asked if she is tired, suffering, falling, anxious, or afraid. What matters is that she is always there, like a lighthouse in the fog or a rock in the middle of the sea. A strong woman is not forgiven for any weaknesses. If she loses control, she is percei...

Interference In the Life Of Married Couples in Pakistan

 In every family, conflicts and disagreements can arise, and unfortunately, some individuals may exhibit selfish tendencies that can strain relationships. Such is the case with the sister-in-law and mother-in-law in this scenario. These individuals seem to prioritize their own interests and desires above the well-being of their brother and his wife's marriage. Their actions and behavior reflect a deliberate attempt to undermine and destroy the bond between the couple. The sister-in-law, driven by her self-centeredness, may engage in manipulative tactics to assert control and dominance within the family dynamic. She might try to poison her brother's mind against his wife, spreading rumors or planting seeds of doubt to create discord. Her actions may stem from feelings of jealousy or a desire for power and influence over her brother, leading her to take destructive measures that harm his relationship. Similarly, the mother-in-law, driven by her own agenda, may intervene excessive...

Dance like no one is watching......

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be pa...

Ma apni Dosti ko shehr ma ruswa nhn krti

میں اپنی دوستی کو شہر میں رسواء نہی میں اپنی دوستی کو شہر میں رسواء نہیں کرتی محبت میں بھی کرتی ہوں مگر چرچا نہیں کرتی جو مجھ سے ملنے آ جائے میں اس کی دِل سے خادم ہوں جو اٹھ کے ...

Collapse of parenting

1) Statistically the biggest indicator of success at 32 years is having self-control when a kid is 12 years old. Success is determined by a lot of factors namely no drug , no criminal violation, having a stable job, good citizenship etc 2) Make your kids speak their native language at home and with you. Reduce generation gap by involving their grandparents in their lives. If possible try to convince their grand-parents to move in with you. 3) Make them feel proud of their heritage. Kids nowadays are ashamed to talk their language or wear their cultural attire. In a quest to fit in and assimilate they want to no longer associate with their roots. 4) Have a friend circle with folks whose kids also are able to communicate in the same mother tongue. This way the kids can talk the language among themselves. 5) Do not give them smart phones until you know they are responsible. Buy them a dumb phone if required. This phone will fulfill the needs. 6) He went onto compare America...

Few powerful words.....

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future." "God is within her, she will not fall." "When she speaks, her words are wise, & she gives instructions with kindness." "Charm is deceptive, & beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

Strong Me......

When they see you as a strong woman, they think that you do not need anything or anyone, you can bear everything and will overcome whatever happens. That you do not mind being listened to, cared for or pampered. When they see you as a strong woman, they just look for you to help them carry their crosses. They talk to you and they think you do not need to be heard. A strong woman is not asked if she is tired, suffering or falling, if she has anxiety or fear. The important thing is that she is always there: a lighthouse in the fog or a rock in the middle of the sea. The strong woman is not forgiven anything. If she loses control, she becomes weak. If she loses her temper, she becomes hysterical. When the strong woman disappears a minute, it is immediately noticeable, but when she is there, her presence is usual. But the strength that is needed every day, to be that kind of woman, does not matter to anyone. Honor, recognize, respect and thank the strong women in your life, because t...

The name of Sacrifice

Marriage is a lot about give and take and sacrifice. It will fail if you start competing with your spouse. It’s not about who’s the stronger person. It’s about who’s willing to compromise and do more to make the other happy. Remember, it’s the little things that go a long way.