Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

"I often struggle to open up about what I'm going through because it feels like nothing will ever change. On the darkest days, when I'm on the verge of giving up, I find it difficult to reach out to others for support. I worry that I'll be a burden, and I don't want anyone to see me as vulnerable or weak. So I retreat into myself, crying silently behind closed doors, and try to heal alone. Sometimes, I disappear even on days when I know others need me. I'm simply too exhausted to face the world. But I'm grateful for the people who try to understand and respect my need for solitude. They wait patiently, knowing that I'll emerge when I'm ready to fight again. Expressing these feelings is so challenging. There are pains that defy words, and I find it easier to withdraw and cope in private. But I'm slowly learning to be more open. I'm starting to realize that I don't have to handle everything on my own, and that reaching out for help is a si...

There were times when I caught my own people talking behind my back, trying to undermine my reputation and scheme against me. To my surprise, I was often unaware of the full extent of their plotting. During those challenging moments, I chose to let God fight my battles. As the saying goes, "It is not humans who instantly grant honor, but rather the very nature of Allah." And my life has become a prime example of Allah's commands for me. Looking back, I am filled with gratitude that my Lord allowed me to emerge victorious against my rivals. Though the betrayal and schemes of those close to me were deeply hurtful, I remained steadfast in my faith. I knew that by entrusting my cause to Allah, I was placing it in the hands of the Almighty, who sees all and will deliver justice in His time.  This experience has reinforced my belief that sometimes the wisest choice is to refrain from engaging in petty conflicts, and instead focus on aligning myself with the will of the Divine. ...

Recently, I learned about a situation involving one of my family relatives in Pakistan. After their parents passed away, the brothers simply distributed and sold the family properties without giving any portion to the sisters. During the entire legal process of handling the property matters, they did not even ask for or inform the sisters. * Dear Parents, I have some advice for all parents who are still alive. If you are capable, please leave a legal will in accordance with your islamic religious beliefs. Remember that once we depart this world, we will have to face Allah (God). In this materialistic world, where we are busy accumulating assets to provide for our children, those children may not even visit our graves after our death. Therefore, be wise and prepare to meet God. Even those who do not believe in God should still show faithfulness to the principles of justice and equity. When distributing assets, be mindful of maintaining justice, just as we expect God's justice in eve...

 The donkey said to the tiger, "The grass is blue." The tiger replied, "No, the grass is green." The discussion became heated, and they decided to seek arbitration from the lion, the King of the Jungle. As they approached the lion sitting on his throne in the forest clearing, the donkey began shouting, "Your Highness, is it true that the grass is blue?" The lion responded, "Indeed, the grass is blue." The donkey, gleeful, continued, "The tiger disagrees with me, contradicts me, and annoys me. Please punish him." The king then declared, "The tiger shall be punished with 5 years of silence." The donkey leaped joyfully and went on his way, contentedly repeating, "The grass is blue"... The tiger accepted the punishment but, before leaving, inquired of the lion, "Your Majesty, why have you punished me? After all, the grass is green." The lion replied, "Indeed, the grass is green." Puzzled, the tiger as...

It takes a significant amount of time to fully grasp the realization that each individual is ultimately responsible for their own life. A mother, in particular, must come to understand that her personal anguish, mortification, depression, courage, insomnia, and stress do not solve her family's problems, but rather exacerbate her own. It is crucial for her to recognize that she is not accountable for the actions of others; however, she is responsible for her own reactions to those actions. Therefore, her primary duty to herself is to remain calm and allow each person to address and resolve their own problems, as she can only exert influence over her own life. Each individual possesses the necessary internal resources to navigate their own journey, and while she may offer advice if solicited, the final decision to follow it or not rests solely with the person seeking guidance. Mothers should no longer bear the burden of their older children's responsibilities, guilt, remorse, fau...

Dearest daughters, Being a good friend doesn't always guarantee being liked, and holding someone dear doesn't always mean being valued. You can say all the right things and still have your words twisted, brushed off, or even used against you. You can give your absolute best and still face disappointment. Even if you strive to be as pure as humanly possible, people may still paint you as the bad guy. After years of experience, here are some important lessons I've learned: 1. You cannot control other people, not even in the slightest. It's a complete waste to assume that you can. Trying to control others will only make you angry, exhausted, and chasing something you can never catch. Instead, focus on controlling yourself. Control your speech, how you treat people, and your attitude. Guard your heart and keep it genuine. Keep showing up, and let that be enough. 2. Remember that other people are not like you. They have different thoughts, feelings, and experiences that belo...

 "Never tell a woman she can't do it." Remember that she possesses the unique ability to dance with two hearts, a feat unparalleled by anyone else. She has breathed with four lungs, experiencing life in a way that is distinctively her own. Furthermore, she has carried within her belly the weight of two worlds, and with incredible strength, she has brought forth life with the power of her screams. The hand that rocks the cradle is undeniably the hand that rules the world. However, it is essential to recognize that a woman's worth extends far beyond her ability to bear children. While the ability to give birth is remarkable, it is equally important to nurture those children and equip them with the tools and life skills necessary to navigate and understand the world around them. A woman's role is not limited to childbirth; she has the potential to shape both male and female offspring while carrying the legacy of two generations within her. It is imperative to refrain...

 In the base of my old memories, a name does dwell, Azeema, a soul we loved so well. With grace and kindness, she adorned the earth, A gentle spirit, of immeasurable worth. Her heart, a vessel of compassion pure, A radiant light that would always endure. Her smile, a beacon that could brighten the day, In every encounter, spreading warmth on its way. A daughter, she was, with love overflowing, A sister, a wife, her devotion ever-growing. A mother, the epitome of tender care, Guiding her children with love beyond compare. In laughter and joy, she found her delight, With loved ones beside her, she'd shine so bright. Sharing moments and memories, hand in hand, Creating a bond that forever will stand. Her presence, a solace, in times of despair, A listening ear, always ready to share. Her words, a balm to soothe a troubled soul, Empathy and understanding, her ultimate goal. Now, she soars high on angelic wings, In realms where eternal serenity sings. Yet, her essence lingers, forever e...

 I was young once. To all my female friends who are 40 years old and above: Many of us are currently experiencing the next phase of our lives. We have reached an age where we notice wrinkles, gray hair, and extra weight. We see the attractive 25-year-olds and reminisce about our own youth. However, we were once 25 years old, just as they will one day be our age. We are no longer the "girls in their summer clothes." In exchange for their youth and enthusiasm, we bring our wisdom and experience to the table. We have raised families, managed households, paid bills, coped with illnesses, sadness, and everything else that life has thrown at us. Some of us have even experienced the loss of loved ones who were very dear to us. We are survivors. We are warriors in our own quiet ways. We are women, comparable to classic cars. Even if our bodies are not what they used to be, they carry our souls, our bravery, and our strength. As we embark on this new chapter of our lives, we should do...

 As a child psychologist, I have always noticed that in every household, there can be a child whose behavior becomes challenging and disruptive for the entire family. It is crucial for parents to assess and understand their children's behavior from a young age. One particular child stands out as they consistently seek attention, adopt a victim mentality, frequently complain, lack self-control in their speech, hold themselves in high regard, demean other children, incessantly compare themselves to others, and engage in negative talk about their siblings in order to gain attention and portray others in a negative light. Unfortunately, this pattern of parenting inadvertently nurtures narcissistic tendencies in the child. These behaviors, if left unaddressed, can persist as the child grows older and transitions into the wider world beyond their home. As they enter adulthood, they may carry these same intentions and behaviors into their relationships, including marriage and parenting, s...