My dear daughter ❤️ ♥️ 💕

Dearest daughters,

Being a good friend doesn't always guarantee being liked, and holding someone dear doesn't always mean being valued. You can say all the right things and still have your words twisted, brushed off, or even used against you. You can give your absolute best and still face disappointment. Even if you strive to be as pure as humanly possible, people may still paint you as the bad guy.

After years of experience, here are some important lessons I've learned:

1. You cannot control other people, not even in the slightest. It's a complete waste to assume that you can. Trying to control others will only make you angry, exhausted, and chasing something you can never catch. Instead, focus on controlling yourself. Control your speech, how you treat people, and your attitude. Guard your heart and keep it genuine. Keep showing up, and let that be enough.

2. Remember that other people are not like you. They have different thoughts, feelings, and experiences that belong to them alone. They approach situations differently, and their perspectives may be vastly different from yours. Don't expect them to handle things exactly as you would. Embrace and appreciate their uniqueness while doing your best to love them for who they are.

3. It's essential to understand that some people will never like you, and there may not be a clear reason for it. Once you accept this, your life will greatly improve.

4. Sometimes, you may find yourself in the role of the "bad guy." There will be times when you act foolishly or display toxic traits. It's important to reflect on your own heart, acknowledge any flaws or mistakes, and work on personal growth. Apologize when necessary, learn from your experiences, and strive to do better next time. Stay humble and extend grace to others along the way.

5. Remember that there is a purpose to every experience. Beauty can be found in every situation, even in failed friendships or heartaches. These experiences can teach you valuable lessons, such as how to build better relationships or be more compassionate towards others. Loneliness can help you appreciate the value of connection, and every season of life produces something precious, even if it's just a fresh perspective.

Life is a continuous process of letting go and holding on—a cycle of catch and release. Let go of the need for approval, bitterness, resentment, and any other negative emotions that weigh you down. Release your insecurities and guilt as they will only keep you shackled.

Hold onto your family and the people who have remained in your life through thick and thin. Hold onto your morals, integrity, light, joy, and hope. Embrace each day and believe in tomorrow. But above all, hold onto love. At the end of the day, love is what truly matters, and as long as you have it, you have more than enough.

With all my love,

Mom


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