18 Years Of Togetherness

 "A house is built with bricks and beams, but a home is built with love and dreams." 

Today, it marks the 18 years of our marriage. The most beautiful years of struggles, hardships, power and understanding. The beauty of our marriage started with zero bank balance, no future plans, no commitments, no luxury, a broken car, 2 dinner plates and 2 spoons, 2 cups. I still remember the financial and career worries day and night. But we faced everything together with lots of love, faith and prosperity. I don't recall a single moment when we fought over financial problems or low income life. I don't remember a single time when we told our family members that what we were going through. We faced every thing together with each other's support and backing. 

A married couple is not bound with any blood relations or forced to do anything for each other. So if you get the right spouse in life who does everything for you more than expected then it makes a relationship more powerful than anything in the world.  

This date marks our togetherness of understanding, respect and blind faith in each other, which many people tried to break but couldn't. 

 To all the haters and jealous people who tries to convey me message that I am lucky to get Bilal. My answer to you all is that you all woman are also lucky to have good husband but the difference between you and me is not luck but great fullness in life. God has promised us to good women for good men and bad women for bad men. Alhamdulillah we got each other because of our pure intentions and clean hearts. I accepted him when he told me that he has nothing except masters degree, no job no money not even could buy me a ring. He accepted me with all the family issues, cultural differences and health challenges.  

After 18 years, I could easily assess our successful marriage is based on truthfulness to each other when we met for the first time. So those who think that hiding your past from future husband can help you to protect then my life proves that truthful to your husband makes your life easy and gain trust of your husband. Today I know all his past crushes and he knows all my ex lovers. So I can't live with anyone where I have to live in a bubble forever and be careful all the time to what to say or what not as in commonly in marriage we share the same bed, same roof but a wall of hidden lies to each other forever. If you are not truthful to each other, then you are living a lie life. Girls and boys are told by their parents to protect marriage by hiding everything past, siblings, poor family, family issues, past affairs so basically they guide them to start your life with the first brick of mistrust, lie and a fine line between married couple. The couple is always in two bubbles living together in a fear that one should not know anything personal. 

My message for all the girls on this day: Women are today very impatient to get everything in full package. A good looking guy, handsome salary, a big villa, no family members and full power. For them my advice is to find a widow grandfather, because he comes with this package. He will give you full power and lots of money will be left with you after he passed away.  


Happy 18th wedding anniversary ❤️ 



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