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عورت کو خوبصورت بنانے والی چیز وہ مرد ہے جو اس کے ساتھ اچھا سلوک کرے۔

عورت کو شوہر کا کھانا گرم کرنے یا موزہ ڈھونڈنے میں کوئی خاص مسئلہ نہیں ہوتا۔ نفیس مزاج کی عورتیں تو ویسے بھی ٹانگیں سمیٹ کر بیٹھنا پسند کرتی ہیں۔ ہر لڑکی کی خواہش ہوتی ہے کہ اسے مناسب رشتہ مل جائے۔ ڈوپٹہ سر پر لینے سے آج تک کسی عورت کی موت واقع نہیں ہوئی۔ آج کل کتنی عورتوں کے دس بچے ہیں کہ یہ شکایت کی جائے کہ عورت بچہ پیدا کرنے کی مشین ہے؟ یہاں تو تین سے زیادہ بچے رکھنے والے گھر شاذ و نادر ہی ملتے ہیں۔ یہ مسائل عورت کے اصل مسائل نہیں ہیں۔ عورت کا اصل دکھ یہ ہے کہ تیزاب گردی کے واقعات پیش آتے ہیں۔ عورت کا دکھ یہ ہے کہ پسند کی شادی پر اسے قتل کیا جاتا ہے۔ عورت کا مسئلہ یہ ہے کہ اگر وہ طلاق لینا چاہے تو وہ نہیں لے سکتی۔ عورت کا دکھ یہ ہے کہ وہ اپنے رشتے بھیجنے کی آزادی نہیں رکھتی۔ عورت کا دکھ یہ ہے کہ چاہے وہ کتنی ہی تعلیم یافتہ ہو، اسے جہیز لے جانا ہوتا ہے۔ عورت کا دکھ یہ ہے کہ وہ محلے کے بدقماشوں کی شکایت اپنے والد یا بھائی سے کرنے سے ڈرتی ہے۔ عورت کا مسئلہ یہ ہے کہ اگر مرد کی توجہ اس پر پڑ جائے تو یہ یقین کیا جاتا ہے کہ عورت نے ہی ورغلایا ہوگا۔ عورت کا مسئلہ یہ ہے کہ اگر روٹی گول نہ ہو...

Stop telling

 When you stop telling your so called "close family and friends" every detail about your life, your enemies will be starved of information. No gossip to go around.  No shaming you about your choices.  Not all people you think of as, or call your family, are in fact your loyal friends..  Some are pretending to be with you just to feed your enemies. Be careful who you call your family because one of the scariest enemies on earth are those people who pretend to be your loyal friends. Privacy is power, what people don’t know, they can’t ruin. جب آپ اپنے دوستوں کو اپنی زندگی کے بارے میں ہر تفصیل بتانا چھوڑ دیں گے تو آپ کے دشمن معلومات کے بھوکے رہ جائیں گے۔ گھومنے پھرنے کے لیے کوئی گپ شپ نہیں۔  آپ کے انتخاب کے بارے میں آپ کو شرمندہ کرنے کی کوئی بات نہیں۔  تمام لوگ جن کے بارے میں آپ سوچتے ہیں، یا اپنے دوستوں کو کہتے ہیں، درحقیقت آپ کے دوست نہیں ہیں۔  کچھ صرف اپنے دشمنوں کو کھانا کھلانے کے لیے آپ کے ساتھ ہونے کا بہانہ کر رہے ہیں۔ محتاط رہیں کہ آپ اپنا دوست کس ...

Human Nature

 "It has been said, 'Time heals all wounds.' I don't agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. I sit back and observe every person in my life, whether we talk every day or not. I know who motivates me and genuinely cares for me. I also know who talks about me behind my back and gossips just to pass the time, but also smiles in my face. I know who I can trust and who to keep a distance from. Whether I say anything or let you be fake... Trust me... I know. My silence speaks volumes, and my absence will let you know exactly where I stand. I'm not one to respond or react to fools. I remove myself from them. I know my place in people's lives and act accordingly. It's not pride; it's self-respect. And I think there are two things you don't fight for: true love and true friends. They come naturally into your life by the grace of God. I've been kind to peo...

The Toxic Dynamics of a Pakistani Mother-in-Law: Creating Rivalry and Spreading Hatred between Daughter-in-Laws

In our culture, the relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be quite complex. Unfortunately, there are cases where a mother-in-law creates a toxic environment by differentiating between her daughter-in-laws and intentionally causing rifts between tthem.Today my topic explores the scenario of a Pakistani mother-in-law who attempts to make one daughter-in-law feel special in order to incite jealousy in the other, leading to a cycle of degradation, hostility, and the spread of hatred within the family. 1. Setting the Stage: Cultural Context To understand the dynamics at play, it is important to consider the cultural context in Pakistan. Traditional family structures often emphasize the authority of the mother-in-law and her role as the matriarch. This can sometimes lead to power struggles and conflict between daughter-in-laws vying for acceptance and recognition. 2. Creating a Hierarchy: Differentiating between Daughter-in-Laws The toxic mother-in-law in this scenario...

A Kiss of Forgiveness on the Forehead of the dead.

I find great annoyance in a type of apology that you offer only to lighten your own conscience. You seek to appease your guilt, yet you do not come forward to make amends despite being aware of the harm you’ve caused. There are many people around us who walk over others' hearts without a second thought. Even after devastating someone’s heart and soul, they continue their lives unaware of the damage they have inflicted. After a long time, when their own spirit begins to feel heavy, they return with just two words: "I’m sorry."  Is that enough? Is it so easy to receive forgiveness for hurting someone, causing them pain, breaking their heart, or devastating their spirit? Does time, emotions, and the loss of feelings get resolved that easily? If someone’s mental and physical well-being has been affected because of you, will these two words of apology act as a balm? For God’s sake, remember before hurting or breaking someone’s heart that forgiveness regarding the rights of oth...

A HUMBLE REQUEST

 This is my humble request to all of my dear friends and family. Each person on Earth faces their own exams, struggles, happiness, and hardships. Some may be blessed with more wealth, while others have less fortune. Some enjoy good health, while others battle with illness. These circumstances are part of God's plan for each one of us, and the cycle of life is the same for all. I humbly request that you understand our parents have already endured their share of struggles, sorrows, and hardships. Once they have fulfilled their responsibilities towards their children and reached an age where they should enjoy a peaceful and joyful life, it's important not to burden them with your own pains and hardships. They are accustomed to their own challenges and should not be made to bear the weight of their grown-up children's sufferings. Please recognize that they are human beings, not receptacles for your troubles. It is not their responsibility to endure additional hardships on top o...

Life

 Life is a remarkable journey, filled with opportunities for growth and fulfillment. However, in the passage above, the perspective seems to focus on the negative aspects of life and the feeling of being trapped in a cycle of work and limited enjoyment. Let's revise it to provide a more balanced and positive outlook: Life is an intricate tapestry, woven with moments of work and leisure. While it is true that we dedicate a significant portion of our time to work, it also allows us to sustain ourselves and pursue our passions. Instead of simply viewing work as a means to survive, we can reframe it as an avenue for personal growth, contribution, and self-expression. Moreover, it is essential to find a healthy work-life balance. While dedicating time to work, it's equally important to carve out moments for relaxation, leisure, and enjoying the fruits of our labor. By managing our time effectively, we can savor the wonders of life and create cherished memories that enrich our souls....

Poem about 2yrs old son

 In a world of wonder and endless glee, There's a little soul, so precious to see. With bright eyes that sparkle, like stars in the night, Your two-year-old son, a pure source of light. With each tiny step and every word he speaks, He unlocks a realm where magic peaks. His laughter, a melody that dances in the air, Filling your heart with love beyond compare. Oh, the joy that radiates from his innocent face, As he explores the wonders of this earthly space. His curiosity knows no bounds, it seems, As he discovers life's most delightful dreams. In his tiny hands, he holds the power, To turn ordinary moments into a grand shower. Of love and laughter, boundless and true, A reminder of the miracles life can ensue. His imagination, a canvas so vast, Where dreams and fantasies are forever cast. He's a superhero, a pirate, a knight, Guided by his imagination's glorious light. As he grows and learns, day by day, You watch in awe as he finds his own way. With unwavering love, yo...

ﻓﺴﺎﺩ ﭘﮭﯿﻼﻧﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﮯ ﻧﺎ ﺑﻨﻮ!!

 خدارا ﻟﻮﮔﻮﮞ ﮐﮯ ﮔﮭﺮﻭﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺍﻧﺪﮬﮯ ﺑﻦ ﮐﺮ ﺟﺎﻭ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻭﮨﺎﮞ ﺳﮯ ﮔﻮﻧﮕﺎ ﺑﻦ ﮐﺮ ﻧﮑﻠﻮ ﺍﯾﮏ ﺳﮩﯿﻠﯽ ﻧﮯ ﺩﻭﺳﺮﯼﺳﮩﯿﻠﯽ ﺳﮯ ﭘﻮﭼﮭﺎ ﺑﭽﮧ ﭘﯿﺪﺍ ﮨﻮﻧﮯ ﮐﯽ ﺧﻮﺷﯽ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﻧﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﮐﯿﺎ ﺗﺤﻔﮧ ﺩﯾﺎ ؟؟؟ ﺳﮩﯿﻠﯽ ﻧﮯ ﮐﮩﺎ ﮐﭽﮫ ﺑﮭﯽﻧﮩﯿﮟ!!!! ﺍﺱ ﻧﮯ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﮐﺮﺗﮯ ﮨﻮﺋﮯ ﭘﻮﭼﮭﺎ ﮐﮧ ﮐﯿﺎ ﯾﮧﺍﭼﮭﯽ ﺑﺎﺕ ﮨﮯ؟؟؟ ﮐﯿﺎ ﺍﺱ ﮐﯽ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﯿﮟﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﮐﻮﺋﯽ ﻗﯿﻤﺖ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ؟؟؟ ﻟﻔﻈﻮﮞ ﮐﺎ ﯾﮧ ﺯﮨﺮﯾﻼ ﺑﻢ ﮔﺮﺍﮐﺮ ﻭﮦ ﺳﮩﯿﻠﯽ ﺩﻭﺳﺮﯼ ﺳﮩﯿﻠﯽ ﮐﻮ ﺍﭘﻨﯽ ﻓﮑﺮ ﻣﯿﮟ ﻏﻠﻄﺎﮞ ﻭ ﭘﯿﭽﺎﮞ ﭼﮭﻮﮌ ﮐﺮ ﭼﻠﺘﯽ ﺑﻨﯽ!!!! ﺗﮭﻮﮌﯼ ﺩﯾﺮﺑﻌﺪ ﻇﮩﺮ ﮐﮯ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺍﺱ ﮐﺎﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﮔﮭﺮ ﺁﯾﺎﺍﻭﺭ ﺑﯿﻮﯼﮐﺎ ﻣﻨﮧ ﻟﭩﮑﺎ ﮨﻮﺍﭘﺎﯾﺎ، ﭘﮭﺮﺩﻭﻧﻮﮞﮐﺎ ﺟﮭﮕﮍﺍ ﮨﻮﺍﺍﯾﮏ ﺩﻭﺳﺮﮮ ﮐﻮ ﻟﻌﻨﺖ ﺑﮭﯿﺠﯽ ﻣﺎﺭﭘﯿﭧ ﮨﻮﺋﯽﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﻧﮯ ﺍﺳﮯ ﻃﻼﻕ ﺩﮮﺩﯼ!!!! ﺟﺎﻧﺘﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ ﭘﺮﺍﺑﻠﻢ ﮐﯽ ﺷﺮﻭﻋﺎﺕ ﮐﮩﺎﮞ ﺳﮯ ﮨﻮﺋﯽ؟؟؟ ﺍﺱ ﻓﻀﻮﻝ ﺟﻤﻠﮯ ﺳﮯﺟﻮ ﺍﺱ ﮐﯽ ﻋﯿﺎﺩﺕ ﮐﺮﻧﮯ ﺁﺋﯽ ﺳﮩﯿﻠﯽ ﻧﮯ ﮐﮩﺎ ﺗﮭﺎ!!!! اسی طرح زید نے حامد سے پوچھا!! تم کہاں کام کرتے ہو؟؟ حامد : فلاں دکان میں!! ماہانہ کتنی تنخواہ دیتاہے؟؟ حامد:18000 روپے!! زید: 18000 روپے بس،تمہاری زندگی کیسے کٹتی ہے اتنے پیسوں میں؟؟ حامد ۔گہری سانس کھینچتے ہوئے ۔ بس یار کیا بتاوں!! میٹنگ ختم ہوئی!! کچھ دنوں کے بعد حامد اب اپنے کام سے بیزار ہوگیا ، اور تنخواہ بڑھانے کی ڈیمانڈ کردی، جسے مالک نے رد کرد...

Don’t Let Everyone Smell the Fragrance of Your Home

I once read a beautiful story that left a deep impression on me. Let me share it with you. There was a man in a village named Gama. Whenever he craved something special to eat—especially morning tea and parathas—he would make his way to a few selected homes. Early in the morning, he would stand outside a house and call out to the woman sweeping the courtyard. “O fortunate one! You have worked so hard all your life. A woman like you has never been truly appreciated. This home shines because of you—this is your greatness." Then he would turn to the husband and say, “You are truly blessed to have such a wife." Hearing this, the wife would open the long‑suppressed file of complaints about her husband, while Gama nodded sympathetically, hand on his forehead. Soon after, the woman would wash her hands and ask, “Would you like some tea? Gama would smile and reply, “Only tea? I still remember your parathas—but you look tired today, so don’t trouble yourself."   Wrapped in the sw...