A HUMBLE REQUEST

 This is my humble request to all of my dear friends and family. Each person on Earth faces their own exams, struggles, happiness, and hardships. Some may be blessed with more wealth, while others have less fortune. Some enjoy good health, while others battle with illness. These circumstances are part of God's plan for each one of us, and the cycle of life is the same for all.

I humbly request that you understand our parents have already endured their share of struggles, sorrows, and hardships. Once they have fulfilled their responsibilities towards their children and reached an age where they should enjoy a peaceful and joyful life, it's important not to burden them with your own pains and hardships. They are accustomed to their own challenges and should not be made to bear the weight of their grown-up children's sufferings. Please recognize that they are human beings, not receptacles for your troubles. It is not their responsibility to endure additional hardships on top of those they've already faced. Spare them from the stories of your pain and difficulty, especially when their age prevents them from providing the support you seek.

Break this cycle and take responsibility for your own life. Our parents have given us a wonderful life, good health, and education so that we can navigate life's challenges using our own intellect. This message is particularly important for daughters who believe that their problems automatically become their mothers' problems. Regardless of the difficult circumstances you may be going through, remember that your mother has her own life and experiences. She is not responsible for your current suffering; she has already endured her fair share of pain and deserves peace in the twilight of her life. Learn to solve your own problems instead of relying on your parents. Avoid being selfish and allow them to live their lives in tranquility. If you feel a desperate need to share your issues, seek out friends or therapists who can provide the support you seek.

As a daughter, I can attest that when I pour out my pain to my parents and return to my own home, my busy life quickly distracts me and I forget about everything in seconds. However, my parents may lose sleep for several nights, deeply concerned about their unhappy daughter. Is this fair to them?

I implore all children to let their parents live happily for the remainder of their lives. Do not burden them with your own suffering; they do not deserve it. Allow them to enjoy time with their grandchildren. Let them witness your happiness, which brings them satisfaction and reaffirms that their decisions were correct. Show them that they were good providers who kept everyone safe, and because of their efforts, we are equipped to handle our lives splendidly. Share the beautiful memories and the lessons we have learned from the difficult ones.

At the very least, this is what I desire from my own children as I grow older, for sacrificing 30 to 40 years of one's life for the sake of children is enough for any human being's lifespan.

May God guide us on the right path and instill in us selfless attitudes towards our parents. May God alleviate our pain in old age, when we are physically and mentally weak, by blessing us with confident, happy, and responsible children. And may God shield us from negative consequences.


Amen.

Nadia Nizam 

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