A Kiss of Forgiveness on the Forehead of the dead.

I find great annoyance in a type of apology that you offer only to lighten your own conscience. You seek to appease your guilt, yet you do not come forward to make amends despite being aware of the harm you’ve caused. There are many people around us who walk over others' hearts without a second thought. Even after devastating someone’s heart and soul, they continue their lives unaware of the damage they have inflicted. After a long time, when their own spirit begins to feel heavy, they return with just two words: "I’m sorry." 

Is that enough? Is it so easy to receive forgiveness for hurting someone, causing them pain, breaking their heart, or devastating their spirit? Does time, emotions, and the loss of feelings get resolved that easily? If someone’s mental and physical well-being has been affected because of you, will these two words of apology act as a balm?

For God’s sake, remember before hurting or breaking someone’s heart that forgiveness regarding the rights of others does not exist until the person forgives. Everything is recorded with Him. The restless turns of someone’s body, eyes questioning the heavens, tears flowing in prostration, silent pain hidden within, the agony dripping from swollen, red eyes, trembling hands—because of you, someone forgot how to smile, someone laughs until they cry, someone tries to hold back tears with clenched fists, someone has made happiness forbidden for themselves, someone has lost interest in their favorite things, someone’s sorrow has turned into anger, someone’s pain is visible in their yellowed face and dark circles under their eyes, and someone wears a fake facade while crumbling inside. Someone has become half-mad, laughing aimlessly, and when they come to their senses, they cry with the same intensity again.

Do you think that the pains entrusted to you can be forgiven so easily? Why do you search for divine qualities in humans? Apology is not merely about causing pain and then coming back to ask for forgiveness and walking away. Alongside forgiveness, restitution is necessary. 

Therefore, try to apologize in a timely manner and stand by the person to help amend the harm that has occurred because of you. All the words spoken by you should bring you shame; all the time wasted by someone waiting for your apology should stand in front of you for as many days, months, and years as it takes.  The nature of the damage should match the nature of the apology, right? Your empty apology is not a remedy for anyone. Indeed, mistakes are made by humans, but restitution must also be made by humans. Otherwise, after causing someone pain, just saying "I’m sorry" is like placing a dead kiss on a corpse’s forehead, which makes no difference to the dead—it is merely something you do for your own solace.


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