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Dear Husbands.....

Dear Husbands, Protect your wife from any wicked, jealous, or abusive family members. Protect her dignity. Because your relationship can be a guiding example for your children. Remember, your loyalty to your wife should be unwavering. Stand by her side and ensure that she feels safe and respected. This not only strengthens your bond but also sets a powerful example for your children. They will learn the values of love, respect, and protection by observing how you treat each other. A harmonious home begins with mutual support and understanding. When you shield your wife from negativity, you foster a nurturing environment where love can flourish. This positive atmosphere will profoundly impact your children, teaching them how to build and maintain healthy relationships in their own lives. Ultimately, your marriage is a model for your children. By prioritizing your wife's well-being and defending her against any form of mistreatment, you demonstrate the importance of kindness, empathy...

A Daughter-in-law Syndrome

 In Islam, the rights of a daughter-in-law are based on the general principles of kindness, respect, and justice that apply to all members of the family. Islam teaches that every individual, regardless of their role within the family, should be treated with fairness and compassion. Here are some key rights of a daughter-in-law in Islam: 1. Respect and dignity: A daughter-in-law is entitled to be treated with respect and dignity by her husband, in-laws, and other family members. Islam emphasizes the importance of treating others with kindness and consideration, regardless of their relationship. 2. Kindness and care: Islam encourages husbands and families to show kindness, care, and support to their daughters-in-law. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife" (Sunan Ibn Majah). This hadith highlights the importance of treating one's wife, including a daughter-in-law, with kindness and excellence. 3. Protection and pro...

Being A Mom

 One day, Aimen approached me, upset and complaining about her friend who had spoken to their teacher about her. As a mother, this deeply pained me, and I couldn't sleep all night. The following day, we had a serious conversation during which I asked her a few questions about her future and the qualities she embodies as a young woman. "Do you aspire to be a confident woman or a victim?" "Do you enjoy hearing negative things about yourself?" "If I were to pass away today, where would you seek sympathy and express your grievances?" Allah has blessed you with eyes and a brain, declaring you to be the best of all creatures. So, when someone approaches you with a story about yourself, you have three options: 1. If it doesn't bother you, you can choose to ignore it and forget about it. This demonstrates strength and resilience. 2. If it does bother you and you decide to confront the person who spoke ill of you, it showcases your confidence and self-belie...

MARRIAGE IS A LONG WAY......

 Marriage is a lot about give and take and sacrifice. It will fail if you start competing with your spouse. It’s not about who’s the stronger person. It’s about who’s willing to compromise and do more to make the other happy. Remember, it’s the little things that go a long way.

Happy 1st Birthday My Son

 In a world so new, a year unfolds, A precious blessing, our hearts behold. With tiny fingers and curious eyes, A son is born, to our surprise. One year has passed since you came to be, A radiant light, filled with glee. From your first smile to your babbling voice, Each moment with you, we rejoice. Your laughter, like music, fills the air, A symphony of joy beyond compare. With every step, you explore and learn, Your little heart, forever yearn. From crawling to walking, you've grown so fast, Leaving footprints of love, a memory to last. Your innocence, a beacon, pure and bright, Guiding us through the darkest night. With every challenge, you persevere, A testament to strength, so crystal clear. You teach us patience, compassion, and grace, A tiny soul, with a shining face. In your eyes, we see a future so bright, A world of possibilities, vast and wide. We'll nurture your dreams, help them take flight, And be there for you, both day and night. Happy birthday, my little one, A...

Seeing your loved one's loosing themselves.....

A few days back, someone visited me, and after that person left, I realized the most painful thing was dealing with a case of suspected dual personality disorder. Literally, I had to take a break from my routine life and relax, as it was one of the most challenging times to witness someone in so much emotional turmoil. The person seemed unaware that their life was being heavily influenced by past trauma, as they were still living in the past and had let it ruin their present and jeopardize their future. They constantly compared themselves to others, including their parents, siblings, life partner, children, and friends. Each discussion would start in a normal way but would devolve into a recitation of their struggles, their perceived best qualities, their character, and their suffering. It was distressing to imagine the person's family going through the worst of this situation every day due to the person's evident narcissistic personality disorder. The way they were ruining the...

Do you love your wife?

Do you genuinely love your wife? I know you may instinctively answer "yes," but that is not the ultimate question. The real question is: does your wife truly feel loved? Take a moment to reflect on this and set aside your immediate response. When a woman genuinely feels loved, it becomes evident through various indicators. The signs manifest in her words and actions. She blushes at the mere mention of her partner. It's rare for her to engage in a conversation without mentioning him. She experiences a rush of emotions, even goosebumps, when she sees or holds him. Her love for him surpasses any other affection she may have. She eagerly seeks his company whenever she needs to talk and feels completely secure in his presence. When a woman genuinely feels loved, she willingly and wholeheartedly supports her husband. She treats him with respect and admiration, without feeling like a servant. She carries herself with the grace of a queen, yet without any trace of arrogance. She ...

Left with a small circle of friends......

 As I continue to grow older, I have come to realize that the length of time someone has known me is not as significant as how they make me feel. It is about finding those who truly see me, hear me, understand me, appreciate me, support me, and love me. In the past, I have wasted months and even years of my life giving myself to individuals who were nothing more than empty shells disguising themselves as human beings. I poured my heart and soul into them, naively hoping that by doing so, they would become whole. However, all they did was eagerly take from me, leaving me drained with dark circles under my eyes, while they fed off the love that flowed from my veins. I have reached a point where I refuse to be a host to soulless individuals any longer. I am now selective in who I choose to forgive and for what reasons. I am not a cold-hearted person who is intolerant of remorse. However, I have come to understand that there are two types of people: those who genuinely feel sorry for t...

Mother In law

 Oh, gather 'round, dear listeners, and lend me your ear, For I have a tale that's sure to bring cheer. It's a tale of a mother-in-law, so grand, A shining star from the magical land of Pakistan. She's a queen in her own mind, you see, With a crown made of ego, as shiny as can be. Her every word, a symphony of self-praise, With a touch of condescension, just to amaze. She'll regale you with stories of her youth, How she was the fairest, the smartest, the truth. Her beauty, unmatched by any other, Her wisdom, greater than any mother. Her cooking, oh, it's simply divine, She'll remind you, as you taste her food, how lucky you are to dine. Her rotis are perfect, each one a work of art, Just don't you dare forget to compliment her culinary part. She'll compare you to others, oh, what a joy, Highlighting your flaws, just to annoy. She'll tell you how her own daughter is superior, Leaving you feeling rather inferior. But fear not, my friend, for there...

Me define........

 In a room, unbeknownst to her, Conversations swirled, words a blur. She walked in, a silent observer, Listening to friends, their tongues astir. A smile graced her lips, a knowing gleam, As she heard the tales, a deceitful scheme. But she shook her head, let it all go, For her spirit refused to stoop so low. Then came a friend, a venomous tongue, Spewing toxic words, a friendship undone. Yet, she discovered the truth, hidden in the fray, But she chose silence, and walked away. Family, too, turned their backs on her, For standing tall, for daring to stir. She stopped crossing oceans for their sake, When they wouldn't help her cross a bridge, she'd take. Curiosity sparked, I asked her why, She could walk away with a tearless eye. Her response held wisdom, a lesson to impart, A guide for healing a wounded heart. "At each crossroad, I must decide, Who's worthy to walk by my side. Betrayal reveals their truest face, And helps me discern with grace. I won't be angry or ...