Being A Mom

 One day, Aimen approached me, upset and complaining about her friend who had spoken to their teacher about her. As a mother, this deeply pained me, and I couldn't sleep all night. The following day, we had a serious conversation during which I asked her a few questions about her future and the qualities she embodies as a young woman.

"Do you aspire to be a confident woman or a victim?"

"Do you enjoy hearing negative things about yourself?"

"If I were to pass away today, where would you seek sympathy and express your grievances?"

Allah has blessed you with eyes and a brain, declaring you to be the best of all creatures. So, when someone approaches you with a story about yourself, you have three options:

1. If it doesn't bother you, you can choose to ignore it and forget about it. This demonstrates strength and resilience.

2. If it does bother you and you decide to confront the person who spoke ill of you, it showcases your confidence and self-belief.

3. If you believe in the story and instead of confronting the person, you seek validation and sympathy from others to prove your innocence and pain, you become a victim. By adopting this approach, you position yourself as a victim in the narrative, seeking comfort and sympathy from those around you.


Now, my dear, the choice is yours. If you complain about your friends today, tomorrow it might be your sister, your husband, your in-laws, and the list goes on. If I assist you now, I am essentially cultivating a victim mentality within you, leading to unhappiness, insecurity, and a destructive outlook. Instead, if you have an issue, approach your friend with a small gift and confront her in front of the teacher. This way, no one will dare to speak ill of you again. It will demonstrate your strength and unwavering belief in yourself.

As a mother, I humbly request other young mothers not to raise victimized women who constantly complain about life, husbands, in-laws, children, and friends. Society relies on these girls, so let's not pass on our insecurities and negative experiences to them. Instead, let's teach them confidence and inner strength. It's crucial to remember that a victim mentality can destroy relationships.

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