Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be pa...

میں اپنی دوستی کو شہر میں رسواء نہی میں اپنی دوستی کو شہر میں رسواء نہیں کرتی محبت میں بھی کرتی ہوں مگر چرچا نہیں کرتی جو مجھ سے ملنے آ جائے میں اس کی دِل سے خادم ہوں جو اٹھ کے ...

1) Statistically the biggest indicator of success at 32 years is having self-control when a kid is 12 years old. Success is determined by a lot of factors namely no drug , no criminal violation, having a stable job, good citizenship etc 2) Make your kids speak their native language at home and with you. Reduce generation gap by involving their grandparents in their lives. If possible try to convince their grand-parents to move in with you. 3) Make them feel proud of their heritage. Kids nowadays are ashamed to talk their language or wear their cultural attire. In a quest to fit in and assimilate they want to no longer associate with their roots. 4) Have a friend circle with folks whose kids also are able to communicate in the same mother tongue. This way the kids can talk the language among themselves. 5) Do not give them smart phones until you know they are responsible. Buy them a dumb phone if required. This phone will fulfill the needs. 6) He went onto compare America...

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future." "God is within her, she will not fall." "When she speaks, her words are wise, & she gives instructions with kindness." "Charm is deceptive, & beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

When they see you as a strong woman, they think that you do not need anything or anyone, you can bear everything and will overcome whatever happens. That you do not mind being listened to, cared for or pampered. When they see you as a strong woman, they just look for you to help them carry their crosses. They talk to you and they think you do not need to be heard. A strong woman is not asked if she is tired, suffering or falling, if she has anxiety or fear. The important thing is that she is always there: a lighthouse in the fog or a rock in the middle of the sea. The strong woman is not forgiven anything. If she loses control, she becomes weak. If she loses her temper, she becomes hysterical. When the strong woman disappears a minute, it is immediately noticeable, but when she is there, her presence is usual. But the strength that is needed every day, to be that kind of woman, does not matter to anyone. Honor, recognize, respect and thank the strong women in your life, because t...

Marriage is a lot about give and take and sacrifice. It will fail if you start competing with your spouse. It’s not about who’s the stronger person. It’s about who’s willing to compromise and do more to make the other happy. Remember, it’s the little things that go a long way.

ایک سوچ عقل سے پھسل گئی مجھے یاد تھی کہ بدل گئی میری سوچ تھی کہ وہ خواب تھا میری زندگی کا حساب تھا میری جستجو کے برعکس تھی میری مشکلوں کا وہ عکس تھی مجھے یاد ھو تو وہ سوچ تھی جو نہ یاد ھو تو گماں تھا  مجھے بیٹھے بیٹھے گماں ھوا گماں نہیں تھا خدا تھا وہ وہ خدا کے جس نے زبان دی مجھے دل دیا مجھے جان دی وہ زبان جسے نہ چلا سکے وہ دل جسے نہ منا سکے وہ چاہ جسے نہ لگا سکے کبھی مل تو تجھے بتائیں ھم تجھے اس طرح سے ستائیں ھم تیرا عشق تجھ سے چھین کے تجھے مہ پلا کے رلائیں ھم تجھے درد دوں تو نہ سہ سکے تجھے دوں زباں تو نہ کہ سکے تجھے دوں مکاں تو نہ رہ سکے تجھے مشکلوں میں گھرا کے میں ایسا رستہ نکال دوں تیرے درد کی میں دوا کروں کسی غرض کے میں سوا کروں تجھے ہر نظر پہ عبور دوں تجھے زندگی کا شعور دوں کبھی مل بھی جائیں گے غم نہ کر ھم گر بھی جائینگے غم نہ کر تیرے ایک ھونے میں شک نہیں میری نیتوں کو تو صاف کر تیری شان میں کمی نہیں میرے اس کلام کو معاف کر شاعر : یوسف بشیر قریشی

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