Siblings Rivalry


The worst part of family dynamics is the sibling rivalry caused by perceived parental injustice and favoritism between children. Parents' unequal treatment and behavior towards their kids can create toxic relationships between siblings from a very young age, which often persist into adulthood. This can manifest as jealousy, resentment and, in some cases, a complete breakdown in the sibling relationship.

Favoring one child over another creates an imbalance and disunity between siblings. Some parents may prioritize the more successful or obedient child, leaving the other sibling(s) feeling neglected and inferior. This can breed silent hatred and a desire to compete with the "favored" child. In other cases, parents may show preference based on gender, valuing daughters over sons or vice versa. 

When young minds are subjected to constant comparison and unequal attention, it can lead to the development of hidden animosity towards each other. This animosity may then translate into physical or emotional abuse, further damaging the sibling bond.

The root cause of this toxic dynamic lies with the parents. Their behavior and approach to parenting are the primary reasons for the hatred, jealousy and eventual breakdown of the relationship between siblings. Parents often fail to recognize how their actions have contributed to the rift between their children.

The parents in these families typically have "favored" and "unfavored" children, which creates resentment and division among the siblings. Instead of promoting unity and cooperation among the children, the parents often create a façade of harmony while actively sowing discord.

For example, the parents may engage in gossiping and exchanging information back and forth between the children. This gives the parents a sense of power and control, even though they are actively undermining the bonds between their own children.

Additionally, the parents often enjoy seeing their children compete and vie for their attention and affection. They may overtly or subtly favor the "highest achieving, wealthiest, or most beautiful" children, as this helps bolster the parents' own image and sense of status.

This dynamic is deeply damaging to the children, as it fosters an environment of competition, jealousy, and a lack of genuine support and connection among siblings. It can lead to long-lasting emotional scars and strained relationships, even into adulthood.

It is not the responsibility of the siblings' partners to fix the behavior and nature of the siblings. The parents are the ones who needed to raise their children to be loving and united towards each other. If the parents fail to do so, the partners cannot be held accountable for the lack of unity and prosperity among the siblings.

Instead, they may wrongly blame their children's partners for the disunity, making false accusations that the partner is the reason for the sibling's estrangement. The truth is that the parents' faulty upbringing and unequal treatment are the true sources of the problem, leading to siblings becoming inferior, superior, arrogant, proud, narcissistic, or feeling like victims. 


Nadia Nizam 

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