Double Standards Of A Woman

 If my son grows up believing that I should be prioritized over his wife, then I would consider myself to have failed as a mother. Our goal in raising our sons is to nurture them into becoming responsible men, loving fathers, and supportive husbands. It is important for them to understand that their future families should take precedence over any personal desires or preferences. We strive to instill in them the values of respect, equality, and the importance of maintaining healthy relationships. By doing so, we emphasize that their commitment to their spouses and children should be a top priority.

I witnessed a situation where one mother was insulting another mother, claiming that she was asking her son to do household chores typically associated with girls, and stating that if she had a son, she would never expect him to do such tasks. Interestingly, this same woman consistently criticizes her own husband, labeling him as a couch potato who has never helped her throughout their entire life together. Now, she is hypocritically criticizing other mothers for raising their sons to be helpful and responsible, akin to daughters. This blatant display of double standards highlights the inherent hypocrisy within our culture. We seem to have different expectations and standards for husbands compared to our expectations for sons, and this discrepancy is a glaring issue.

It is important to recognize that I do not blame men for their natural tendencies, but rather the mothers who shape and influence their upbringing. Mothers play a crucial role in molding their sons' beliefs, values, and attitudes towards gender roles. Inconsistencies in how mothers raise their sons versus how they expect their husbands to behave perpetuate these double standards. 

Do not take excessive pride in having sons; instead, treat them as ordinary human beings. Strive to raise them to be independent individuals who can confidently navigate the world on their own. Avoid fostering a sense of physical and mental dependency on you as parents. It is my firm belief that our foremost responsibility is to cultivate our sons into considerate and respectful men who treat others with kindness. It is our duty to ensure they acquire the necessary skills for household tasks so that when they marry, their partners are not viewed as mere maids but as equal partners in the relationship. Let us challenge and abandon outdated cultural practices, becoming educated and exemplary role model mothers for future generations. It is essential for our society to address and rectify these discrepancies, fostering a more equitable and balanced approach to parenting and gender expectations.

Nadia Nizam