Disrespect You.....

 People often perceive disrespect as simply shouting or verbal abuse, but it encompasses much more than that. Disrespect can manifest in countless ways, including tone, timing, and context. These factors are crucial in determining whether an action or statement is disrespectful. Additionally, the identity of the person delivering the message and the subject matter being addressed are also significant. What may seem insignificant to one person can hold great meaning for another. Ultimately, the level of respect one feels towards another person plays a pivotal role in interpreting and responding to disrespectful behavior.

Personally, I consider myself a relaxed individual who enjoys humor, jokes,playful banter and unstoppable laughs. However, I have also become hypersensitive to disrespect with age. I can sense when someone tries to belittle or put me down, and even subtle whispers can impact me deeply, akin to a physical blow.

In the past, I used to engage in fights, feeling outraged and questioning, "How could you say such things to me?" However, I have since matured and realized that these conflicts are not worth my time and energy. If someone truly valued and respected me, such situations wouldn't arise. When faced with disrespect, I now respond with a firm "No. You cannot speak to me in that manner." By doing so, I prioritize my self-respect, inner peace, and the need for closure. Although I may feel emotional and may even shed tears, I refuse to allow anyone to mistreat me any longer.

 Some small minded people labels it wealth & power, Some may label this stance as ego-driven, attention seeker or drama but is it really? Is it egotistical to expect fair treatment, care, respect, and the same level of effort from others? Can we compromise on how we are treated? Should we tolerate disrespect in the hopes of receiving love? These are the questions I ponder.

You see, when genuine love exists between two individuals, the intensity of emotions flows both ways. If a small gesture has the power to bring immense happiness, then an equally small action can cause deep sadness. Love surpasses ordinary pleasantries and exchanges of greetings; it is a profound connection laden with intense emotions. Consequently, hurtful words cannot be dismissed as mere expressions. They wound deeply, sometimes even shattering the pride we hold in our loved ones. We may have carried a sense of pride, knowing that this person belongs to us. However, when faced with a crushing statement like "Lol. You mean nothing to me," we are left with two choices: to walk away with dignity or to remain, subserviently licking their feet.

 I choose to walk away, wearing a smile as a testament to my strength and self-worth. My distance with you is my answer to your disrespect and you have to face the results of your behavior. You can't clap with a single hand, every action has a reaction.

Nadia Nizam

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