Whispers of the Soul by Nadia Nizam

 As a child psychologist, I have always noticed that in every household, there can be a child whose behavior becomes challenging and disruptive for the entire family. It is crucial for parents to assess and understand their children's behavior from a young age. One particular child stands out as they consistently seek attention, adopt a victim mentality, frequently complain, lack self-control in their speech, hold themselves in high regard, demean other children, incessantly compare themselves to others, and engage in negative talk about their siblings in order to gain attention and portray others in a negative light. Unfortunately, this pattern of parenting inadvertently nurtures narcissistic tendencies in the child. These behaviors, if left unaddressed, can persist as the child grows older and transitions into the wider world beyond their home. As they enter adulthood, they may carry these same intentions and behaviors into their relationships, including marriage and parenting, s...

 People often perceive disrespect as simply shouting or verbal abuse, but it encompasses much more than that. Disrespect can manifest in countless ways, including tone, timing, and context. These factors are crucial in determining whether an action or statement is disrespectful. Additionally, the identity of the person delivering the message and the subject matter being addressed are also significant. What may seem insignificant to one person can hold great meaning for another. Ultimately, the level of respect one feels towards another person plays a pivotal role in interpreting and responding to disrespectful behavior. Personally, I consider myself a relaxed individual who enjoys humor, jokes,playful banter and unstoppable laughs. However, I have also become hypersensitive to disrespect with age. I can sense when someone tries to belittle or put me down, and even subtle whispers can impact me deeply, akin to a physical blow. In the past, I used to engage in fights, feeling outrage...

 YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE'S CUP OF TEA   The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are Your People.   Don't waste your finite time and heart trying to convince the people who aren't your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won't buy what you are selling. Don't try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours   Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are. Be who you are. You are not everyone's cup of tea and that is OK

By the age of 35, you should have gained enough wisdom to understand the following: 1. Sometimes, it is wise to remain silent. Not everything needs to be said. 2. Silence is often preferable to unnecessary drama. 3. If you encounter someone who is smarter than you, it is beneficial to collaborate with them rather than competing. Competition can be a hindrance. 4. The family you create holds greater significance than the family you were born into. 5. Your current job may not have your best interests at heart. They typically pay you enough to sustain yourself but may not support your dreams. 6. Liberating yourself from society's advice can be freeing. Many people offer guidance without truly understanding what they are doing. 7. Most individuals drift through life without a clear purpose, direction, or intent. By understanding their needs, you can take on a leadership role and guide them. 8. It is preferable to have one true friend who: - Is genuinely happy for your successes. - Supp...

 If my son grows up believing that I should be prioritized over his wife, then I would consider myself to have failed as a mother. Our goal in raising our sons is to nurture them into becoming responsible men, loving fathers, and supportive husbands. It is important for them to understand that their future families should take precedence over any personal desires or preferences. We strive to instill in them the values of respect, equality, and the importance of maintaining healthy relationships. By doing so, we emphasize that their commitment to their spouses and children should be a top priority. I witnessed a situation where one mother was insulting another mother, claiming that she was asking her son to do household chores typically associated with girls, and stating that if she had a son, she would never expect him to do such tasks. Interestingly, this same woman consistently criticizes her own husband, labeling him as a couch potato who has never helped her throughout their en...

My dear daughter, The perception of oneself by others can vary greatly, depending on the lens through which they view you. It is important to recognize that people's perspectives are influenced by their upbringing, beliefs, and individual experiences. Consequently, the way you are perceived does not necessarily reflect your true character. In the narratives of some individuals, you may be portrayed as a terrible person, while in the stories of others, you may be seen as a Godsend. However, these perceptions are not indicative of your actual self. Some people may find your bright personality endearing, while others may find it annoying. Likewise, some may perceive you as weak and emotional, whereas others may feel comfortable being themselves around you. There are those who consider you rude and selfish, but at the same time, others respect your ability to stand up for yourself. Similarly, while some admire your pride in your appearance, others may perceive it as conceit.  It is cru...

 What a terrible day it has been for me. I couldn't sleep last night due to an overwhelming restlessness. I constantly experience a deep sense of concern that one day my friend will lose her sanity as a result of her silence, and the individuals surrounding her will inflict mental harm upon her. Sadly, they have succeeded in gradually poisoning her life. Her own family, her blood relatives, have shown disrespect, mockery, and humiliation towards her. I often ponder how someone can live a peaceful life by belittling others. My friend, I have witnessed your pain, listened to your sorrows, and shed tears alongside you. I am the one who has observed all the malicious gossip and drama that have been directed at you. I am the one who knows the suffering caused by various relationships, and I have been present for all the degrading jokes made at your expense. Today, I pray to my Lord to reveal to me the concept of Karma in this life. Show me the ordeals and suffering that those who have w...

 As I was overcome with emotional tears, I entered into marriage with a heavy heart. There was just one person who made a promise to my father that he would care for me as his own daughter, who held my hand and provided support, who stood by me through the early challenges of marriage and gave me courage, who shared in my happiness and blessed me, who understood my feelings and offered assistance, and who showed me the right path forward. When I became part of your family, I was uncertain about what I would encounter. I felt nervous and afraid. However, he gently alleviated my worries and made me feel at home from the very first day we met. He welcomed me with open arms, a gesture I will never forget. His kind words have always been a source of encouragement for me. I know I can depend on him no matter the circumstances. He is an exceptional father-in-law, standing out among the rest, and I am grateful to God for blessing me with him - the very best. Whenever I think of someone who...

 One of my relative always call me when she is feeling stressed out but hides her joys in life. It feels like I am a pillow for her; when she is stressed, she puts her head on the pillow to relax or cry her heart out. Once she releases her stress and vents all her frustrations, she becomes emotionally empty and forgets who I am. The irony is that whenever she finds happiness or experiences success in her life, she continuously hides it from me and tells others, "Uski nazar lagegi" 😆😆😆. As a mature person, my perspective on this situation is that I don't trust people like her; she is a joke to me. I simply listen to her stories but don't believe them. She is akin to a therapy patient to me—I listen with one ear and let it go out the other. Unfortunately, I don't have time for someone's nonsensical drama in their lives. When I encounter people who are consumed by self-centeredness, constantly focused on "I, Me, and Myself," I can't help but feel...

 O Allah, I beseech You to accept and fulfill my supplications, desires, prayers, and dreams, and make them a source of goodness, blessings, and well-being for me, my parents, and my family. Protect my family from the evil eye and bestow upon them good health. Ameen. Grant my parents a long, happy, and healthy life, encompassing sound minds, bodies, and well-being. Allow them to witness and experience the joy of their grandchildren, born to each of their children. Provide them with a dignified life, free from dependence on others. May I become an ongoing charity for them. Bless my siblings with good health and all that is beneficial for them, and safeguard them from all harm. Ameen. O Provider, I implore You to bless me and my husband with a lifelong, lawful source of income, infused with boundless blessings, and enable us to be a resource for those deserving in the world. May it be for the best. Ameen. I humbly request, O Allah, to bless my children Aimen, Mashal, and Nyle. Grant ...