Relationship with boundaries


I am not interested in having any form of relationship with someone who is unwilling to take responsibility for their hurtful behavior towards me. I refuse to engage with individuals who choose to be passive-aggressive, gaslight, or treat me with indifference, only to sweep the issues under the rug afterward. If you expect to reconcile with me, your apology needs to be as sincere and genuine as the disrespect you showed. Otherwise, I kindly request you to keep your distance. Furthermore, those who support your negative actions are not welcome in my life either. You cannot handle me in the same way you handle them because I am not one of them.

AND

I'm not sorry for establishing boundaries. I'm not sorry that you preferred me when I was a people pleaser. I'm not sorry that you fail to recognize the person I've become after learning to love myself. I'm not sorry if my ambitious dreams make you feel insignificant. I'm not sorry for prioritizing my own well-being and learning to say "no" to things that don't serve me. I'm not sorry for removing you from the pedestal I once placed you on. I'm not sorry for taking control and no longer letting you dictate everything. I'm not sorry for finding my voice and expressing my opinions. I'm not sorry for growing and evolving as a person. I'm not sorry for refusing to be walked all over by you. I'm not sorry for realizing that I deserve better. I'm not sorry for forgiving my past self. I'm not sorry for being unable to forgive those who have committed unforgivable acts against me. I'm not sorry for learning to value myself. I'm not sorry for finally recognizing my own self-worth.


Life demanded change from me. I found myself walking a path focused on pleasing others, neglecting my own desires, and disregarding my own happiness. I realized that if I didn't make a shift, I would end up with little joy and numerous regrets. With this realization, I took action. I began asking myself what I truly wanted, what I needed, and what would genuinely bring me happiness and fulfillment. The answers to these questions led to a profound transformation within me. This new version of myself was unrecognizable to many, and it made some people uncomfortable. The reason for this discomfort was that I was no longer prioritizing their needs above my own. Consequently, I allowed certain individuals to fade away from my life. I wished them well and continued on my personal journey of self-discovery. It was during this process that I began to truly see and embrace myself. I became aware of my authentic self. So, yes, I have undergone a significant change. Finally, I have transformed into the person I was always meant to be.


Nadia Nizam 

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